Careful: Don’t Out Yourself-Wait…

…until we have absolute confirmation. With the recent spate of holds on s/s, bi-national couples w/ one or the other partner facing deportation, a lot of us got our hopes up that these cruel and unfair policies would be rescinded.

We may be headed in that direction, but we are not there yet. So, for safety’s sake, consider before you put the cart before the horse.

When I say ‘Don’t Out Yourself’, I am referring to being on Social Media or in the press as, say, a service-member or a couple facing deportation proceedings. That genie, I know full well, does not go back into the bottle. Which when you show up at a border booth may play a key role in whether you proceed—or not.

In December, the President signed the repeal of DADT (Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell) but discharges are still proceeding.

Yesterday, the AG’s office announced that couples in s/s, bi-national relationships will still face deportation.

The White House argues that it is their constitutional duty (which it very well could be) to uphold even the most unjust laws. While they waffle and decide tho’, there are thousands of service-members and loved ones facing risk on so many levels. We have to be patient. Remember, we want to win the war not the skirmish.

Here’s a recent email from GET EQUAL:

Dear Thom,

In December, when President Obama signed the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Repeal Act of 2010,” I breathed a sigh of relief. Although there is still work to do to make repeal fully inclusive and get it implemented, my hope was that at least now we would not lose another servicemember because of that discriminatory law. After so many discharges even as late as last year [1], I thought we were finally out of the woods.

Sadly, I thought wrong.

A short time ago, we were contacted by an active-duty servicemember who — despite the repeal of this horrible law — is still going through the process of being discharged. The process started for him on November 8, 2009, when someone anonymously outed him after seeing his MySpace page.

Within weeks, his discharge process began — but it limped along while the government waffled about what to do about repeal. A year went by before he got any kind of update, each day believing it was his last day to serve his country. After the repeal bill was signed into law, he believed his case to be over.

But Derek got bad news earlier this month. Despite DADT repeal, his case is still being pursued and his hearing is scheduled for tomorrow. With implementation still not in place, is this the Navy’s attempt to slip in another discharge or bully him with a hearing…just because they still can?

Click here to show your support for Derek and to fight back against his discharge!

Derek joined the Navy right after high school — here are his own words:

This lengthy matter has been tearing me up; it has destroyed relationships and displaced loved ones who were relying on me. But even after the U.S. Government has made it clear they don’t want this law in effect the Navy has said that, because the paperwork has been submitted and the policy is technically still active, they have no choice but to continue.

I have been in the U.S. Navy since I graduated high school. It’s all I know and all I want to do. I have dreams of grandeur, hopes of retiring a young, highly-decorated, respected senior enlisted sailor. My resolve is weakened but not broken. I just have to place my fate in the hands of three strangers — strangers who I hope have strong moral convictions and like-minded sentiments to my own.

Click here to add your name to the list of supporters Derek will take into his hearing with him!

Get Out! Get Active! GetEQUAL!

Robin McGehee, Director


[1] “Servicemembers United: An ‘unusually high’ 261 discharges under DADT in FY 2010” —

~ by Thom on March 31, 2011.

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